The Appearance Of a Christian Woman

I might regret starting this discussion on my blog, simply because there are many reasons why someone could point a finger at me, but nevertheless, I’m extremely curious what other women think about this touchy subject.
We all know what men think, but how do we feel? Should there be such a thing as a dress code? Is it sinful to look at the fashion world and follow the current trends? When I say ” the appearance of a Christian woman” I mean how she dresses, acts, and lives her DAILY life.

I found this on the internet last night and thought it would be a perfect way to start this discussion.

Through His Word, the Holy Bible, God gives us a simple and clear yet general instruction in I Timothy 2:9: “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel…” The word “modest” is defined in Collin’s English Dictionary as: 1. having or expressing a humble opinion of oneself or one’s accomplishments or abilities; 2. reserved or shy; 3. not ostentatious or pretentious; 4. not extreme or excessive, moderate; 5. decorous or decent. Therefore, God expects a woman to dress in a proper, well-mannered fashion—certainly not in a provocative, outlandish or excessive way. Christians are to be examples to those around them, living the pages of the Bible for those who never read them. Their appearance and actions should exude stability and good judgment.
the article

So ladies, what is your opinion? What are your thoughts?

p.s. beautiful photograph is from pinterest


  1. inna
    January 14, 2014 / 5:47 pm

    This is what I’m always worried about. I always think how does God wants to see us. What is appropriate for us as a christian woman. But I think that God doesn’t like when we try to get attention or attract someone. That is my opinion.

    • NelyaK
      January 14, 2014 / 6:28 pm

      yeah i totally agree with you 🙂 there are ways a woman can look beautiful without looking inappropriate. But again, what are the limits?

      • August 24, 2017 / 8:56 pm

        I completely agree and I also really understand why God says that. And for example on how we should make sure that we are dressing appropriately, your chest should NOT be showing any part of your breasts or your cleavage and your stomach and NO part of your butt should be showing either. I also really feel deep inside that when it comes to apparel with pictures and words on them and yes even some patters of shapes should also be careful about so like where they are on the shirt or the bottoms whether shorts or skirt. It may seem as that really sounds like you don’t have any freedom to wear a variety of clothes, but it isn’t taking it away. You still get plenty of freedom to wear spaghetti straps tank tops halters (I do enjoy halters) and shorts, skirts, pants, dresses. As long as the private and sensitive areas to the eyes are being covered up and words and the designs aren’t offending to God your completely fine. I know a woman who is rebellious would completely disagree with me, BUT I’m aiming to please God and OBEY him Daily.!

  2. Alla
    January 14, 2014 / 6:07 pm

    I also think about this often, does God get sad when he sees me looking into fashion, Its really scary but then again i know that God does not like when we try to fit in into this world he wants us to shine and stand out. we have to look like a pure women without faults, we have to act like a christian. We have to shine in this world we have to make people want to be like us and dress like us Christians. How will people know we are christian from just looking at us and not talking to us. they will see us Me all dressed like them make up like them and they will be like how is she different then me? she looks exactly like me . I think God wants us to look more appropriate and more pure than what we look like right now. I haven’t thought about this in a while and i THANK YOU so much for posting this and opening my eyes again.

    • NelyaK
      January 15, 2014 / 1:26 am

      I agree with you dear 🙂 and you’re welcome

  3. masha
    January 14, 2014 / 7:13 pm

    Hey, based on the Bible a woman should wear modest clothing. By that I mean if ur purpose to look hot so people can notice u, especially guys, thats not considered modest. If by wearing sexy clothing u go out and other man “check u out” its the same as the adultery. And not only man will be at blame, but women also. The body that God gave u is for ur husband’s eyes only. Every girl needs to dress cute and women like, not sexy and bar like…. if u know what I mean.

    • NelyaK
      January 15, 2014 / 1:29 am

      yup, exactly 🙂

  4. Ilona
    January 14, 2014 / 8:45 pm

    It’s often taught in churches that a Christian woman must stand out of the crowd and look different. For a long time, I always associated this with the way a woman dresses. And yes, a Christian woman should be modest and humble in the way she dresses but that doesn’t necessarily mean that she has to give up dressing fashionably as long as it is not a “собласть” to others. However, I believe that a Christian woman should be most different from others by her character, not necessarily by the way she dresses. She must be modest in character, humble in character. And if she really is that way in character, then it will also be evident in the way she dresses too. It goes both ways. A modest woman in character would never wear a midriff revealing top and a mini skirt. I hope everyone is understanding what I’m trying to say here.

    • NelyaK
      January 15, 2014 / 1:34 am

      That’s pretty much how i feel!
      A woman is a woman, she loves to look beautiful. You can have someone dressed appropriately yet be completely drawn away from them simply because of their character. It’s a combination of being dressed appropriately and also having Godly character.

  5. Angie
    January 14, 2014 / 10:40 pm

    This is something I think everyone struggles with these days me included. Seems everyone is obsessed with fashion, plastic surgery and how they look in general and not obsessed with god. It’s very very sad I think about this daily. But I think a person can’t just change by themselves(I tried). I think once a person is truly fully commited to god and reads the bible(and not just read like a book) but actually try understanding and looking for the word, pray and and put God first then everything else will just fall into place. A women will change. God will change her. She will b a godly women. And everyone will see. Nothing will matter to her besides god. Good topic nelya:). God bless u hun

    • NelyaK
      January 15, 2014 / 1:39 am

      Thank you Angie, I appreciate your honest comment here 🙂 I’ve tried so many times as well… It’s very difficult not only because we care about the way we look, but also the way society views modesty as well. It’s not cool to wear a skirt that’s slightly big on you. “You have to accentuate your figure” lol

      You’re completely right about the fact that only God can truly change a woman’s heart and desires so that she would “WANT” to dress different.

    • Lidiya
      January 15, 2014 / 6:52 pm

      This made me tear up, you’re so right Angie! The kinds of holy women we read about in the Bible are created by God. Once God tells a girl or a woman that she is beautiful, no one will be able to persuade her otherwise. She will no longer have to prove her worth to this world. That’s why we must turn to God for healing and acceptance. Nelya, I think you’re very brave for putting up this post and wise for looking into this subject! God bless!

  6. nadia
    January 15, 2014 / 10:45 am

    Well you know how they say “whats on the inside, comes out on the outside”. Of course we women want to look beautiful. I dont think theres anything wrong with looking at the fashion world and following current trends. You dont have to follow all of them, choose whats appropriate for u. dressing revealing and showing too much skin in public is wrong, we all know that. Its all about who you are, cuz we all have different limits I guess, what I may think is wrong, others won’t, or the opposite. God created beautiful world and beautiful people that need to be dressed in beautiful clothing, especially women.

  7. Kelli
    January 15, 2014 / 11:29 pm

    I think it depends on how much your thoughts are consumed by the desire to look good. If a woman is CONSTANTLY trying to think of ways to look good to impress others, jealous when other people wear something more stylish, or is always obsessively thinking about the next purse or shoes she can buy, then there is a problem. I believe where your time and money is spent there your heart is also.

    • NelyaK
      January 17, 2014 / 4:22 am

      You’re right, it often becomes an idol for women. We’ve got to be very careful and guard our hearts from things that could ruin our relationship with God.

  8. NelyaK
    January 17, 2014 / 4:10 am

    I love Peter 3:3-6. It just sums it all up perfectly. Don’t be sorry for the long comment, I hope that people will find it as helpful as I did. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us 🙂

  9. erica
    January 17, 2014 / 8:04 am

    The Bible warns us not to be vain or conceited (Philippians 2:3-4) and not to draw attention to ourselves by the way we look (1 Timothy 2:9)… but nobody can see the heart and just because somebody happens to have taste in clothing does not mean they are idolize it, also I might add if someone is judging someone else for “idolizing clothing” that person may in fact be jealous and that is also a sin. We must all just look at ourselves and concentrate on our own hearts. Anyway I think “RELIGION” puts such a huge emphasis on appearance and just changing that will not get anybody closer to God…I do agree Christian girls should look modest 🙂

    Here are some christian women attributes I found online

    1. She handles herself gracefully (Proverbs 11:16)
    2. She loves and embraces children (Psalm
    113:9, Titus 2:4)
    3. She speaks with wisdom (Proverbs 31:26)
    4. She has discretion (Proverbs 11:22)
    5. She is able to be fully trusted by her husband
    ( Proverbs 31:11)
    6. She desires to be her husband’s most faithful
    companion and closest confidant ( Malachi 2:14)
    7. She joyfully embraces being a woman and
    abhors feminism ( Psalm 113:9, Romans 12:9)
    8. She can manage her home well (Proverbs
    31:27, Titus 2:5, 1 Tim 5:14)
    9. She is diligent to accomplish anything
    entrusted to her care ( Proverbs 31:13, 1 Tim
    10. She is firm in her convictions and desires to
    teach younger women the virtues of godly
    womanhood through her example and
    instruction. ( Titus 2:4)
    11. She desires for, and encourages men to be
    leaders in their families, churches and society.
    ( Isaiah 3:12, Eph. 5:23, Titus 1:5-6)
    12. She desires to build up and strengthen her
    home ( Proverbs 14:1)
    13. She desires to raise and train the next
    president, not BE the next president ( Proverbs
    31:1, Isaiah 3:12)
    14. She believes children are a blessing from
    God, not a burden ( Deut. 7:14, 33:24, 127:3)
    15. She has a humble spirit (1 Peter 3:4)
    16. She looks up to, follows, and respects her
    husband as the leader of the home ( 1 Cor. 14:35,
    Eph. 5:33)
    17. She has a quiet spirit, and influences others
    through godly conduct ( 1 Peter 3:1-2, 4, 1 Tim.
    18. She desires to be a mother of nations, not a
    leader of nations (Gen 24:60)
    19. She has a heart to open her home to
    hospitality and service to others ( 1 Tim. 5:10)
    20. She cares for the saints (1 Tim. 5:10)
    21. She is capable and skilled to clothe her family
    and decorate her home ( Prov. 31:21-22)
    22. She desires to model the examples of holy
    women in Scripture ( 1 Peter 3:5)
    23. She has skills to prepare meals for her family
    and bless others through hospitality ( Prov.
    24. She is able to teach her children with
    practical, life instruction ( Proverbs 31:1, 26,
    25. She desires to please her husband and do
    him good all his life ( Prov. 31:12, 1 Cor. 7:34)
    26. She is able to manage a business from her
    home ( Prov. 31:18)
    27. She can be trusted with wise discretion in
    spending ( Prov. 31:16)
    28. She cares for the poor and the needy (Prov.
    29. She clothes herself in modesty and good
    works and does not desire to attract or distract
    men’s eyes ( 1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Tim. 2:9-10)
    30. She has a kind and helpful attitude (Prov.
    31. She is prudent: intelligent, productive,
    skillful, wise and has understanding ( Prov. 19:14)

  10. Alla S
    January 21, 2014 / 6:29 am

    Great discussion! As for the part about “soblast'”, I always wondered that if you wore something very appropriate and still someone soblaznilsya, would that be your fault anyways? And what are your thoughts on bathing suits? Unless its a scuba diving suit, bathing suits usually aren’t modest.

    • August 24, 2017 / 10:09 pm

      I feel as long as your breasts and even better your cleavage isn’t showing along with your butt should also be fully covered and your stomach probably shouldn’t be showing either besides you don’t have to put sunscreen on your stomach. Makes sense because they are private and sensitive areas.

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